Ive come to the conclusion that life is too short to have crappy friends. I have held on to several friendships over the years tolerating the crap. Its 2009, and I have forced myself to make some valid realizations with those people. All that glitters aint gold. That statement hardly does the situation justice. There are a lot of fake people with hidden agendas out there. Some of my friends or "so-called friends" fit into that category.
Life brings unexpected changes. When you think that you have it all figured out, God throws you for a spin and you start back at square one. I thought I knew what I wanted in life. I knew I needed an education, so I got my degree. I knew that I needed a career, so I embarked on that journey as well. Relationships, they were present but only in the back of my mind. Women came and women went, the women that I thought were someone I could spend the rest of my life with, left me in disappointment. I see my circle of friends slowly dwindling down as they settle into serious relationships and in some cases, marriage. I have yet to find that someone to connect with on the deep level of my soul. I dont want to sound cliche, but Tyler Perrys "Madea" said it best. People come into your life for a season, while others come for a lifetime. We continue to mix those seasonal people with lifetime expectations.
So you ask, why post on here. Ive posted before, and a couple of real conversations have come to fruition. But the bottom line is I have yet to find something of substance to hold on to. Ive let friends try and introduce me to women, Ive gone to clubs and bars trying to meet new women. But here I sit, with nothing but heartbreak and disappointment. Ive loved and Ive learned, and for those experiences I am stronger. I have always been one to care what my friends thought, what my parents thought, what her parents thought. But I never put my own feelings into consideration first. I think it is time to be selfish, and put what I want first and everyone else can follow suit or get off my bus of life. I want to love, I want to whole-heartedly give my all to someone and know that I am appreciated for who I am, and the man that I have become. Most importantly, I need to let go and let God handle this because ultimately it is His will.
I am a 26 year old black male. I was born in CA, but raised here in GA. I graduated with a B.S. in Criminal Justice from Kennesaw State University. And like most college graduates, my degree has nothing to do with my profession. Currently I work in the fleet management industry.
My personality, well, it has layers. But when you think about it, just about everyones has their share. I am a VERY up front person, I tell it like it is. I do not sugar coat the subject matter either. Basically if there is an elephant in the room, I am going to say theres an elephant in the room and probably tell you what color it is too. That does not mean that I am incapable of being romantic. What it means is that I am upfront out of the gate. I am a realist and if you cannot be honest and upfront with someone, then it makes a relationship hard to establish. I have a very sarcastic sense of humor and most importantly I love to laugh.
My past, as I mentioned earlier, has helped shape who I am today. I have been hurt, crushed in fact, so I choose very carefully whom I decide to open up whole-heartedly to. In regards to a relationship, it is the simple things that add fire and energy. The specifics of that side of me shall remain a mystery…for now.
I find that the best way to get to know someone is to allow him or her to get to know you. That is not saying that you have to put all the cards on the table up front, but it does me being open and allowing people to bond over time. I enjoy spending time with my friends and going to local neighborhood establishments for drinks, coffee, and/or musical gigs. I love to cook and have been told that I am pretty dangerous in the kitchen.
One thing I am a huge advocate of is the friendships that were established prior to us meeting. It is what it is. A mutual respect of that is key to making anything work be it friendship or more. No one, or no one I have met instantly integrates all faucets of their life. That is something else that takes time. I believe that a mutual respect for each others lives makes thing flow much more smoothly.
So you ask, what am I looking for Why am I looking online Well, to best answer that question is by telling you that I am NOT looking for anything in particular. I do not like living with false hopes and expectations. I want to genuinely get to know who you are. There obviously has to be some sort of attraction both physically and mentally, but I am not out here looking for the next super model. If something develops then great, if not, life happens and you know one more person on this rock we called Earth. There are no games or gimmicks with me, just good down-to-earth REAL conversation. I know you are sitting there thinking that this sounds too good to be true, but in all honestly, this is who I am.
Location: Marietta
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